What is the key difference between how girls and boys feel it is crucial to be seen by their peers, according to Tannen?
Explanation
This question gets to the heart of the different social currencies for boys and girls. For girls, social success is measured by being 'liked,' which reinforces symmetrical connections. For boys, success is measured by being 'respected,' which reinforces their position in an asymmetrical hierarchy.
Other questions
What is the basic premise of Deborah Tannen's Genderlect Styles theory?
According to Tannen, what is the primary desire that drives women's conversational style?
What term does Tannen use to describe the idea that masculine and feminine styles of discourse are best viewed as two distinct cultural dialects?
In the context of private versus public speaking, what does Tannen claim about the quantity of talk between men and women?
What did psychologist James Pennebaker's research, which involved voice-activated recorders, discover about the daily word count of men and women?
When telling stories, how do men's and women's approaches typically differ according to Tannen?
How does Tannen define 'cooperative overlap'?
Why do men, according to Tannen's theory, typically avoid asking for help or directions?
What is the function of a 'tag question' in women's speech, and how might men perceive it?
How do men and women typically view conflict, according to Tannen's analysis?
What does Tannen suggest is the first step in overcoming destructive responses caused by genderlect differences?
What concept from Julia Wood's research on childhood conversational rules supports Tannen's theory?
According to the study by Wilkinson and Lewis, how did the communication of mothers to their 2-year-old sons and daughters differ?
What is the 'aha factor,' and what is its role in Tannen's theory?
What is a major critique of Tannen's theory from feminist scholar Senta Troemel-Ploetz?
What was the conclusion of Adrianne Kunkel and Brant Burleson's research on comforting communication, which challenged Tannen's two-culture hypothesis?
In Carol Gilligan's theory of moral development, which is presented as an ethical reflection on Tannen's work, what is the primary basis of women's moral judgment?
What is men's typical reaction to the overt style of active listening (head nods, verbal affirmations) that women often use?
What does Tannen identify as the source of continuing irritation in cross-gender talk regarding conversational interruptions?
The chapter references Susan Pease Gadoua's observation on nonverbal communication to supplement Tannen's theory. What common scenario does Gadoua describe for resolving conflict in a marriage?
According to Tannen's analysis, what is the underlying reason a woman might tell a story where she portrays herself as foolish?
What is the primary critique social scientists have of Tannen's use of the 'aha factor' as proof for her theory?
Tannen describes adult men and women as speaking 'different words from different worlds.' This imagery underscores her view that male and female conversational styles are what?
What is a 'speech community' in the context of Tannen's theory?
What did Adelaide Haas's 1979 study, mentioned in the chapter, find about the speech of men and women?
How does Tannen reconcile her theory with relational dialectics, which assumes all people feel a tension between connection and autonomy?
What does Tannen see as a greater risk than naming gender differences, despite the danger of reinforcing stereotypes?
In the comparison of listening styles, a woman using 'cooperative overlap' is likely to be perceived by a man as what?
What reason does the text give for why a man's 'early warning system' might be triggered in a conflict situation with a woman?
How does Carol Gilligan critique Lawrence Kohlberg's theory of moral development?
Which of the following is an example of a rule that Julia Wood's research found boys learn in their speech communities?
What does Senta Troemel-Ploetz believe will happen in a follow-up study of men who have read Tannen's book 'You Just Don’t Understand'?
In the author's personal story about driving to Muskegon, his stubborn refusal to stop and ask for directions best illustrates which concept from Tannen's theory?
According to Tannen's analysis, men's humorous stories often have a certain flavor that serves to do what?
What critique of Tannen's theory is offered concerning its comparison to Baxter and Bakhtin's relational dialectics theory?
When a man doesn't offer active listening cues like 'uh-huh,' how is a woman likely to interpret his silence?
What does Alice Walker's notion of a woman falling in love with a man because she sees in him 'a giant ear' endorse?
According to the chapter, why might a student of communication theory like Brittany from the application log have experienced the 'aha factor' even before reading about Tannen's theory?
Why does Tannen believe it is difficult for a marriage to survive and thrive?
What is the 'unfair paradox' that Carol Gilligan points out regarding women's moral development?
What is the primary reason Tannen's Genderlect Styles theory has received so much criticism?
When a man and woman are talking, and the woman begins to speak before the man is finished to add a word of agreement, what does Tannen call this action?
In her ethical reflection, Gilligan contrasts women who care with men who are what?
Which statement best reflects the critique that Tannen's theory is reductionist?
According to Tannen's description of a faculty meeting, who is more likely to engage in monologues and for what purpose?
What does Tannen's theory suggest is the difference between symmetrical connection and asymmetrical status?
Why might a woman who verbally shares a problem with a man become frustrated, according to the 'aha factor' example in the critique section?
Which of the following phrases best summarizes Tannen's explanation for why miscommunication occurs so often between men and women?
When Tannen claims that moving from sixth-grade boys to girls of the same age is 'like moving to another planet,' she is emphasizing what aspect of her theory?